The Other F Word (Feminism part 2)
In our culture, the F word is a dirty dirty word. TV shows steer clear of it. You rarely hear it on Showtime or HBO. The only time we hear this word is while it’s being vilified on Fox News. I’m not talking about the f-bomb. I’m talking about feminism.
What I’m talking about, is how no one wants to be a feminist. When people hear the F word, their mental image is of pushy, antagonistic women who refuse to shave, and hate men. As a result of this image, even while speaking out for women’s rights, celebrities and public figures refuse to wear this term like the badge of honor their fore-mothers fought for. In 2009, Lady Gaga, who has made many statements in favor of women’s and gay rights, made the statement, “I’m not a feminist. I love men.” Sound familiar? It should. Madonna, Demi Moore, Angelina Jolie, and many other famous and influential entertainers have made statements starting with “I’m not a feminist but” – yet all these women make statements and live their life in accordance with many feminist ideals. This begs the obvious question, what is feminism, and why is it deemed so threatening?
Whenever I’m asked to define feminism, Rebecca West comes to mind. When asked the same question, West answered this way, “I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat.” Were I to take a stab at defining the movement, I would start with the understanding that throughout history; cultural, political, and religious factors have marginalized and maligned women, restraining us into a subordinate role in society. Feminism is the view seen from this lens, coupled with a commitment to lifting and resisting these forces holding women down.
So now that we understand what It is, why is feminism regarded as so threatening? A part of this comes from an incomplete understanding of 2nd wave feminism. The feminist movement in the United States is broken down into historical ‘ waves’. The first wave took place in the 19th and early 20th centuries. First wave feminism included the first convention of Women’s rights, in 1848, and lasted through the end of the suffragist movement in 1920. In the early 1920s feminism fell out of fashion as first wavers grew older and their daughters, tired of their mothers’ preaching, became flappers instead of activists. The movement lay dormant until 1953, when Betty Freidan published “The Feminine Mystique” speaking out about the widespread restlessness and despair felt by women struggling to find identity and purpose in the roles of perfect wife and perfect mother that society prescribed for them. Publication of this book sparked what came to be second wave feminism. The images in your head of bras burning and protest signs? You’re thinking of the second wave (although the bra-burning is a myth, but anyway…) This is the era known as man-hating-anti-family-ugly-angry-obnoxious-agitators. Are these accusations true? Sure they are, but not for the entire movement, and not all the time – But even if all the unflattering stereotypes are 100% accurate, I’m not writing off or apologizing for it. As author Susan. J. Douglas puts it, “Weren’t feminists these grim-faced, humorless, anti family, karate-chopping ninjas who were bitter because they couldn’t get a man?” Well, in fact the problem was that all too many of them HAD gotten a man, married him, had his kids, and then discovered that, as mothers, they were never supposed to have their own money, their own identity, their own aspirations, time to pee, or a brain. And yes, some women indeed became bad-tempered as a result. After all, no anger, no social change.”
Do you see her point? Society has trapped women by oppressing us and trying to dupe us into compliance- and when we fight back, they slap us in the face by insulting the one facet of our personalities we’re not only taught to, but shoved into obsessing over – attractiveness. After a history of oppression, we’re essentially told, “Don’t get angry- it isn’t cute.” See the issue here?
Like everything else, feminism has evolved. In the 1960’s & ‘70s, the movement was largely political. Their concerns were the Equal Pay Act, and reproductive rights. While those things are still a concern, today’s 3rd wave has a less governmental, and more cultural focus. Is feminism any less needed? No. 1 in 3 women are still sexually assaulted during their lifetime. Women still make 30% less than men in the same jobs. We are still taught that none of our qualities or accomplishments matters if men don’t find us attractive. So no matter how dirty it is, I’m still using the F word.
We’ve Moved!
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MVD
A New Kind of Christian for the World
Hey guys, it’s been awhile since I last blogged about something but I’m gonna try and get back into this thing because I miss it WAY too much. Anyway, let me get right into the issue of the day. Religion in today’s world. Regardless of whether you believe in a deity, a spirit, or the flying spaghetti monster, everyone has their own theory on how the world was created, why we are here, and where we are going.
Most of you know I goto a Christian liberal arts college and so, one would assume, I am a Christian; and this assumption is true. Therefore I, like many other Christians across the world, were “flabbergasted” to see how the media seemed to lump the likes of Harold Camping, our modern-day Nostradamus whose failed prediction of Judgment Day shook the paranoid realms of society last Saturday, with the rest of us Christians. In our current era of mass media, its pretty clear that our society has an affinity for the unusual; how often do you see superlative words like the “biggest”, the “worst”, or the “craziest” in our media? The problem is that when applied to religion, it shows the “crazies”; Middle Eastern terrorists, Fred Phelps, or even Glenn Beck.
Anything to success is a bad thing, especially religion since it is such a powerful and illogical force. I can tell you from experience that my faith is not logical; there are very few things about Christianity that are completely logical; but that does not mean that all the good that it can bring is for naught. People like Harold Camping destroy the very fabric of what being a Christ-follower means. We cannot know what God plans for this world; it is our job to do our best to love God and love others because, in the end, that is all we can do.
“‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Matthew 22:37-40
Rob Bell, a prolific, “postmodern” Christian writer puts it best when he says that “you rarely defend the things you love. You enjoy them and tell others about them and invite others to enjoy them with you.” I suggest that Camping, and many other Christian “apologetics”, or “defenders”, take a step back and use their time, money, and energy, for things that can help bring the kingdom of God here to Earth. CBS News reported that Family Radio, the company that Camping is a part of, spent over $1 Million on billboards all over the world, and that is a conservative estimate. Think about how many charities could have benefited from all that money? Its sickening.
Regardless, the only way to truly be “Christ-like” is to extend His love to all around you. Don’t be arrogant, judgmental, or fake; instead, act like a true messenger of God by helping others. Be the new, the true Christian for the world.
A New War?
Muammar Gaddafi is one of the most interesting despotic rulers in the world today and has been for the past several decades. I mean, let’s face it; if you take Rebecca Black out of the picture, Gaddafi is currently the world’s most talked about person. Gaddafi dresses in classic dictator chic; from the aviators and beret down to the obnoxious military uniform with unnecessary war awards. If that wasn’t enough, the strongman surrounds himself with an all-female entourage known as the “Revolutionary Nuns” who are trained in marksmanship and martial arts. This guy has the image most dictators would kill for. Nonetheless, Gaddafi has put his image on the line by enraging the West once against with his borderline insane antics.
The background of the current conflict we find ourselves in is rooted in the recent Arab world protests. Gaddafi, rather than watch his regime crumble like that of Ben Ali’s Tunisia and Mubarak’s Egypt, took a rather proactive approach and disallowed the protesters the right to assemble through his typical forceful methods. This has led to a virtual civil war between the rebel strongholds in the eastern portion of the country and the pro-Gaddafi strongholds in the west. The question now is, why are we involved in yet another desolate desert country?
Gaddafi is accused of using his air force to terrorize protesters and those who sympathize with the rebels. Recently, France and Britain have called for a coalition of Western nations to disallow the Libyan Air Force the right to terrorize civilians by instituting a no-fly-zone over the nation. The United States has joined this coalition and has launched several missiles and flown planes over the nation. Though American statesmen have consistently regarded this as a limited-time engagement, Gaddafi vows to fight to the death.
One issue with the conflict that has consistently been brought up in the United States government involves the endgame in regards to the conflict. Is it human rights? Is it to kill Gaddafi? Is it to secure oil? The answer has not been clarified.
This conflict is rapidly changing by the day. Recently, there are reports that Al-Qaeda is fighting alongside the Libyan rebels. The rebels that the West support are being influenced by so many contradicting ideologies that a positive outcome for the rebels could lead to a prolonged civil war between fighting factions dominated by pro-Western liberals and pro-Islamist radicals.
Regardless of all of the questions raised by the conflict one thing is for sure; in a post-Gaddafi world, his crazy fashion antics will surely be missed.
Related Articles
- Gadhafi son toured US in weeks before uprising (sfgate.com)
- Libyan rebels regain key city after airstrikes (boston.com)
- Libyan rebels seize back key eastern city (seattletimes.nwsource.com)
- Airstrikes force Gadhafi retreat; rebels clinch hold on east with fall of Ajdabiya (thestar.com)
- Libyan rebels rout Gadhafi forces in strategic town (calgaryherald.com)
Conflict in Libya!
I wrote a post on a different site and am linking back to it here! Please check it out and make any comments you want!
Operation Odyssey Dawn: Merits of American Intervention in Libya




